07/12/07 12:18 - ID#40078

mom doesnt approve, a lot of people dont

so, my mom has some real issues with me dating a black guy. i don't really know what its all about, but it really upsets me. especially since this guy i like is black, and she is being all weird about it.

of course, she isn't the one who makes the call, but i also feel like other family members have issues with this. seriously, we are in year 2007. im not even completely wihite, and now with my tan i totally look like a mexican. what is the deal with this backwards attitude???

im finding myself attracted less and less to white guys. sorry, whiteys, but white just gets boring for me.

this new guy said he'd never experienced racism until he moved here a while ago. he said that in europe, people's attitudes toward race and beauty are completely different. i just don't understand why skin color is so important.

would it be better for me to date some asshole and have people approve just because he isn't ethnic? or date someone i really like, no matter what race they are.

i feel like this shouldn't be a controversial issue anymore, but it seems like it is? why? i don't get it.

the point here is. i don't really care if people have issues with it. i will date whomever i choose.

james writes at 05:07:40 07/12/07 - Comment #20721: Who can say how our desires form. There is a small demand for videos with titles like 'lactating grannies' and 'Raunchy Eskimo Pie' what makes someone attracted to such things is beyond me. So, unless you in fact harbor some sort of racism for white folk, I wouldn't say your desire for a non-white partner is inherently racist, just part of that bewildering array of desires.

But good luck with the family. For my first boyfriend, I was the first to meet his mother. She had so many issues with her first born son being gay, but after meeting me and seeing I was a person and not some swishing gay archetype she became much more accepting. So, maybe, if things get serious (if they already aren't) meeting this guy could help.

matthew writes at 04:39:02 07/12/07 - Comment #20714: "i just like guys who aren't (white)" That's racism. If you can prioritize how much you'll like a man based on the color of their skin, It shouldn't surprise/hurt you that your mother is doing the same thing.

bridgette writes at 03:29:18 07/12/07 - Comment #20709: my cousin dated a black guy when she was younger, and the family was totally against it for years. Eventually he ended up robbing her fathers house, and everyone was like, "we told you so". Had it been a white guy, maybe they would have given her the sympathy she needed and deserved... he screwed her over more. assholes are assholes no matter what color. So goes the same for kind, loving people. Love knows no color. Unfortunately, i don't see the color barrier going away any time soon. I think our generation has broken it down a whole lot, but there will always be people out there searching for something to separate themselves from others...Follow your own heart. I wish you the best.

joshua writes at 03:16:49 07/12/07 - Comment #20706: Exactly, Z.

lilho writes at 02:16:08 07/12/07 - Comment #20702: hey now. i am not racist against white guys. recently, i just like guys who aren't.

mrmike writes at 01:47:50 07/12/07 - Comment #20700: The racial thing is everywhere. My ex is an african american and we'd be in Sweet Tooth and get dirty looks. Do what is good for you and the hell with everybody else.

drew writes at 01:35:58 07/12/07 - Comment #20699: Sorry. She's just telling the truth. White guys are pretty lame. If we didn't run the world nobody would like us at all.

zobar writes at 01:02:34 07/12/07 - Comment #20698: I was totally with you until you said all white men were boring assholes without ethnicity. Now _I'm_ experiencing racism. WTF? I thought that in 2007 we were supposed to be more enlightened than that. <-:

- Z

jason writes at 12:27:00 07/12/07 - Comment #20697: Don't expect even your family to see the world the same way you do. The bottom line is if you are dating a black dude it's their problem if they can't handle it. Of course, then again, your family can also make your life very difficult.

Me, I pretty much am attracted to tall, thin, blonde chicks, which as a Swedish dude should come as no surprise. There really isn't any reason to come down from that, although a latina would be really nice. A black girl would be nice too, although I'm definitely way too stereotypically white for a black girl to be down with hit probably.